Confused!!

I've always stuck to the saying "like some1 who likes u rather than liking some1 who u liked"...
Now since i've seen and experienced more of the world, i personally think dat one shud go for wat they want n like rather than juz pleasing others... *confused*
Which is the correct thing to do???

Having trying to live life both ways, i personally find dat following the initial is much more easier... but the question is... R U HAPPY AT THE END OF THE DAY??...

Imagine trying to like some1 n suit urself accordingly juz coz they like u and the only reason u've got to hold on to being wit em is dat it was the right thing to do or it guarantees u something a lil more assuring...
but remember this.. this person who likes u isn some1 u hate, isn some1 less attractive or anything of dat sort in any way.. its juz dat u find some1 else more attractive then this one person, or in other words ur liking towards him isn the same as wat he has towards u... wat happens?? wat wud u do??


So now, having to decide dat the latter is the correct thing to do... how do we go about it???
Speaking as a female here... some guys believe dat we women should not be the ones making the first move... we should let the guyz do it... which i personally think contradicts wit the whole idea of having to go for some1 we like... its one sided.. meaning, the guy will always get wat he wants, while we poor women will juz have to wait... n if we did anything making even the slightest move, we'd be labeled bitches or a person who is way too easy...

Being an Indian i always thought dat only the Indian guys were conservative to judge and label us girls, but only now i realize dat men r juz pure men... there is no race or ethnic to divide em in any way when it comes to women...

Please do leave ur opinions bout wat u really think bout this... coz as much as we think we're living in a modern world, most of em out there r still very narrow minded when it comes to things like this... in my own words i would define all this ppl sexist...

Perhaps we women should live according to this:-
I'm tough, I'm ambitious, and I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a bitch, okay.
~Madonna Ciccone